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20 Influential Points for a Maximized YOU

Motherhood

Written by Fred's Wife, Mrs. C.Hilliker

1.  Be an example. Your children will parent like you, interact with others like you, handle stress like you, etc. If you see a weakness in your character, do all you can to improve on it so that your weakness does not become your child's weakness.

2.  Share your values with your children. We all have values which derive from various sources: our parents and upbringing, our faith, or our social circles. Your children will, likewise, develop their own set of values. Guide their development by sharing with them what you believe and why you believe it.

3.  Take charge of your child's education. Whether they are in a public school, private school, or home school, you are their first and best teacher. Be involved in the process.

4.  Define your expectations. Tell your children how you expect them to behave and then teach them how to do it.  Don't assume they know. Their idea of putting their shoes away may be very different from yours.

5.  Define and enforce clear limitations. It may be helpful to write these out (with illustrations for young ones), along with the consequences for breaking the rules. Post them on a wall in a prominent location.

6.  Establish a daily routine. If you have children under the age of 10 a regular routine is a necessity.  A daily routine gives structure to your day and also helps everyone to keep up with their daily responsibilities.

7.  Be consistent. If you set bedtime at 8:30 pm, then put the children in bed every night at 8:30 pm. Consistency gives children stability and security.

8.  Serve others cheerfully. Mothers serve the needs of their children all day and night. Do this cheerfully as you teach your children to serve others by your example.

9.  Be wholly present. Really listen when your children are talking to you, look them in the eyes and teach them to do the same. When playing with your children, be completely saturated with the moment. There is always one more thing that needs to be done, but our children are only children for a short time.

10. Get on the floor. With preschoolers you should literally get down on the floor and play with them.  Play blocks, cars, or baby dolls and be with them on their level. This applies to older children as well. Take time to play a board game, a card game, or a ball game -- preferably something that allows you to interact while you play.

11. Be a reader. Read to your children. Teaching your children the habit of reading is a gift which will give to them day after day -- all the days of their lives.

12. Share interests with your children. Find a hobby you can do together or support them in something they enjoy.  Children need to know you care about their passions.

13. Work diligently. Working hard at a business endeavor, a project, or your household responsibilities teaches your children to do the same. Modeling a good work ethic requires us to complete what we start. 

14. Lift up your children with positive words. Praise their honest efforts, even if they don't succeed. Don't insult or degrade them, especially in front of others.  Encourage them when they're working hard and celebrate with them when they reach a goal.

15. Be joyful. You set the tone for the day by your own attitude.  If you are joyful, it is likely your children will be as well. A joyful attitude is the best way to communicate to your children that you enjoy being with them.

16. Be honest with your children. Tell them that you don't know the answer -- and look for it together. Admit mistakes and ask for their forgiveness.  Your children need to learn that it is okay to be honest about their weaknesses and faults.

17. Establish good habits. Bad habits are hard to break so do your children a favor and start them off on the right path. Give them a reasonable bedtime, feed them healthy food, control the amount of television they watch and video games they play.

18. Teach your children to maintain healthy relationships. Teach them the following: how to choose friends of good character, how to interact with others in respectful ways, when to speak up and when to be quiet and how to walk away from abusive and unhealthy relationships.

19. Cuddle your children. Hug them. Hold them on your lap. Put your arms around them. Your children need physical, loving contact with you.

20. Tell them you love them -- every day, several times a day. Your children want and need to hear it.  They love to hear it because they love you too!

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